PARENTS FIGHTING

Hey Jesse Neo!

You've helped me before but I need help again. My mom had been fighting with my step dad and has been happening a lot lately. In the beginning of their marriage they fought a lot and I thought they wouldn't work out but they did. A few weeks ago, the cops showed up during an abusive fight they had. I was locked in the room with my two little sisters. My step dad hit my grandma and my aunt during a birthday party and I'd never trusted him afterwards. It's been two weeks since the cops came and I feel stressed. I've spoken to some of my family and they say I should stay with my dad for a while until my mom gets her life together. The problem is my other side of the family says I should stay with my mom. I feel like I should stay with my dad but I might upset my mom. What should I do?

Signed,
  -Maribell

Dear Maribell,

What happens between your mom and dad are their problems which means you should not be affected by it. It is their choice and your job right now is to be a good child and work hard so you will have a good future.

On the other hand you must remember that they are your parents and you have the rights to be with them, and there is a great chance that you'll be seeing them for many years no matter if they are still together or separated. During these times, I recommend you to listen to your family and stay with your mum. This doesn't mean you won't be able to stay with your father ever again. You can be sure that you'll be able to see him again in the future. However if you insists that you should stay with your dad, you can do that too, but if you think you are upsetting your mom, I suggest you to stay with her as you don't want her heart to be breaking any worst. You may look out for signs and expressions if she is happy about you living with your father. You may even ask her! Remember to show many love to both your parents and that they are still the number one people in your life! Give them kisses, spend time with them and show that you truly care for them. This would bond your relationship better with them and might even bring the family together again. The key to this is love!

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Best regards,
  -Jesse Neo

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