| Hey Jesse Neo!
I really like a girl in my school and I mean REALLY like her! I'm always thinking about her naked and stuff like that. Is this normal or am I just a pervert? It's sometimes really annoying as I can't focus on my school work.
Signed,
-Bob
Dear Bob,
As you grow and mature into your teenage years, you will start seeing the people and genders around you differently. Instead of believing in girl-germs and having boys-only zones, you'll actually want to kiss them, touch them, and go beyond that! You'll even come to a point you'll commit your life to them! This is called falling in love. So yes, it is normal for you to fall in love with a girl and think of her naked. This is not seen as being a pervert, however if you start letting the sexual side take over the love, thinking of naked girls whenever you see a girl, then this unfortunately will lead to being a pervert. This is called lust, rather than love.
Falling in love with someone always involves sex. Sex is the bond that ties marriages together. It is what attracts people together, and the only reason why you love someone. Without these sexual feelings people will not want to commit with each other, hold hands, kiss, or be in relationships. It is only because of these sexual feelings that the human race exists!
If you are having trouble studying because you keep thinking of her, you may want to team up with her at school and do your work together. Another method is relate everything you learn with her. For example if you are to memories the periodic table, relate each of the elements to a part of her body. This would not only help you concentrate, but improve your memory skills too!
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Best regards,
-Jesse Neo
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