Hey Jesse Neo!
I am always alone, everyone at school always bullies me. I have never had a boyfriend and I find myself always in my room hoping for someone to come. When I go on MySpace or some other websites and look at other people at school's profile, I see so many photos of them having fun like at the beach and comments about hanging out. No one ever hangs around me and I find myself soaking in my house all my life. I never haven't even been to the movies before! I just feel so lonely and I need advice to how to stop feeling this way.
Signed,
-Robyn
Dear Robyn,
This may sound a bit hard to believe but I know exactly how you feel because I often feel intense loneliness too even though there's always people surrounding me. But firstly you need to understand that you CAN survive in lonely times. You said you've never hung out with anyone before... how old are you now? That is the number of years you've managed to survive and guess what, you're still okay! What I think you should do is to feel the loneliness, cry as hard as you can at night, and just feel the pain of loneliness penetrating into your soul. After some time you will start to heal, and you will then realize you're still who you are, alright, healthy and well. This is when you will finally overcome loneliness and can survive alone. This comes from personal experience, by the way.
If you've never been to the movies before, why don't you just go alone? There is nothing wrong with it. Lots of people goes to the movies alone. You'll be able to watch the movie of your choice with no disturbance, and can have the whole box of popcorn to yourself! And here's a trick! If you want to make new friends at the movies, sit in the centre of the aisle! If you want to enjoy the movies alone, sit in the front. And if you need to go to the toilet during the show, sit at the edge! This is just a little pattern I've found out! So yeah, instead of being in your room all the time, get out and enjoy some fresh air! Shop, hit the screen and guess what, your new best friend may just be waiting for you!
If you would want more advice or hope to stay in contact with me, feel free to add me on MySpace and/or Facebook and/or Twitter! Just hit me up a message or comment anytime! I promise to reply to them all!
Best regards,
-Jesse Neo
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