HOW TO BE FRIENDS WITH EX

Hey Jesse Neo!

The guy I just broke up with started as one of my closest friend since elementary school and now he's breaking up with me. I understand that he doesn't have the time and stuff, but I still want to be his friend. What do I do?

Signed,
  -Corey

Dear Corey,

First of all face what is done is done. You can't turn around and travel back in time. Take your time to cry and express yourself. Consider reading the How to Get Over Breakup advice for some guidance.

Now if you want to be friends with him, you've got to let things cool down for a moment. For the first few months, try your best to avoid him. If the reason for him dumping is you is really because he doesn't have the time, it means he still loves you and by not seeing you, he may even start missing you. Don't try to be his friends when his fire is still burning or you'll just end up getting more hurt.

When the time comes, randomly say a quick 'Hi' to him when walking pass. Send him a comment on MySpace if you can, and just try to get back to his life in a non-touching manner. Hang out with his friends, and soon enough if he sees you in the same way, will start being your friend again. Because you two had been buds since elementary school, I believe there are plenty of interests you two shares. Besides, that long gap for not seeing him must made him feel really lonely!

If you would want more advice or hope to stay in contact with me, feel free to add me on MySpace and/or Facebook and/or Twitter! Just hit me up a message or comment anytime! I promise to reply to them all!

Best regards,
  -Jesse Neo

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