Hey Jesse Neo!
Thank you for putting this on your website as this will really help people! =3 I was wondering if you could help me with something..
I mostly hang out with people who are older then me like... 17 - 18.. And.. people keep asking me why I don't hang out with people of my own age and stuff.. It's getting kinda annoying.. what would you do?
Also... one of those friends acts, as people say.., "gay" but he isn't.. but because I hang out with him sometime.. I'm gay too, as they like to mention it. >__> Thank You for helping me if you can! ^_^
Signed,
-Chris
Dear Chris,
Thanks for sending in your advice! In what I can see you seem to have a habit of being friends with people who are few years old than you. I just want to let you know that this is very normal, as myself, too have many similar friends. There is nothing wrong with it - it is part of life! If your friends are showing off their gossip about your older buddies, seriously it is none of their business to what kind of friends you may have!
If the people starts being too annoying, find a time and place where you can explain to them how your older pals are actually really good people! Tell them about the fun times you've had together and if you have a chance, introduce them to your friends too! A reason why they bug you is simply they're jealous of your friends. If they are, why not just let them be good buddies too? If you and you're older friends get along, it is very highly chanced that they will get along with your other friends too! This may not only solve your problem, but even extend your relationship to another level! Your friendship power will be stronger, and even more happier!
These days calling someone "gay" tends more to be an insult than referring to homosexuality. Could it be they're jealous as I mentioned before? Or simply they want to be see the fun of calling you it? No matter what it is, once again, find a way to explain to them the truth. Bring your older friends with them too! Do it during lunch at school, IM it on the Internet, or even in a cafe! I'm sure this will help you very much!
If you would want more advice or hope to stay in contact with me, feel free to add me on MySpace and/or Facebook and/or Twitter! Just hit me up a message or comment anytime! I promise to reply to them all!
Best regards,
-Jesse Neo
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